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I woke today with the giggles of two young girls crawling into my bed. 3 and 7, my “nieces” are the most incredible children I have known. It was 70 degrees at 9 am when they slowly opened the door and ran under the covers. My best friends were asleep and it was sweet perfection for the half hour  that the girls and I laid in bed chatting. While my friends snuck in an extra couple of hours of sleep, taking advantage of my presence keeping the kids at a slightly quieter tone than normal, I made a traditional Southern New Year’s Day brunch complete with braised ham hocks, Hoppin’ John, collards, pan roasted potatoes, and poached eggs. Once they awoke, we sat together outside, the sun on our faces, and ate too much and laughed just enough. I miss them terribly and wish my reality was a bit closer to theirs, rather than on the other coast. Perhaps that is a change I need to consider.

This year begins a lot differently than last. Last year I was in love with a complicated man, still technically owned my home, still technically owned a small business, although both were in the end process of being given back and dismantled, respectively. I had the very best dog, who was also one of my most dearest friends. Just when I thought my own personal identity couldn’t be anymore shook up, it was. Tested is barely scratching the surface with regards to how I felt many times over. Tortured is definitely how I felt most often.

I don’t believe in Resolutions. I don’t think I did anything necessarily wrong or bad to encourage the harsh events that had unfolded around me in 2011. Will I love less? No. Will I love differently? Quite probably. Each time we love someone, a new person or a past person, the love is a little bit different. It’s nearly impossible to ever love quite the same as you have previously. So, what will the year bring. I have hopes for it. I have wishes and dreams and preferences, but none of these things I can predict as the truth. I have come to learn, through my many painful experiences, that I have far less control over the outcome of things that I once believed.

 

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Now, I am no Bridget Jones and I surely don’t believe that a mini break equates love, however, I do lean towards someone liking you a heck of a lot if they want to fly you out to spend the weekend with them somewhere on the other coast. Type Geek has a month of travel ahead of him. This week alone he will be in the midwest and the east coast for a meeting and a conference. Then, upon returning, he is, within days, flying out to the west coast for another business trip. We had chatted about my coming down for a quick 36 hour trip to the Philly trip, but then today he mentioned that, while Philly is good… how about 3 days in So Cal? Well, that would just be horrible, especially considering that my “nieces”  and some of my closest friends live there. I was hoping to connect with an old friend in Philly, but that is close enough that I can actually plan a trip coming up to do so, San Diego is a more difficult one to muster.

When I travel to San Diego, it is to visit them and I stay in the guest room/office and thusly, I integrate into the daily lives of my friends and the girls. While this is wonderful, occasionally it can be taxing. With no solo adult time, no access to a personal vehicle or public transportation, it makes taking alone time difficult. This trip, if Type Geek and I are able to coordinate the schedules, will be an entirely different way of experiencing San Diego. Staying in a hotel, sleeping in, no schedules, sex and sunshine and cocktails. Yes, I will see my friends. I am trying to plan a dinner at their place so that Type Geek can experience really good Bavarian food. However, as wonderful as it will be to see them and the girls, it will be so wonderful to go back to a hotel room and get naked and curl up in a nice hotel bed with a nice naked man, rather than a mattress on the floor of an office across the hall from the rooms of two wonderfully loud and occasionally temper tantrum throwing little girls.

What I wonder:
Will he love my “nieces” as much as I do?
Will my friends and he like each other? ( These people are more “family” to me than my blood relatives, so in effect, this is like meeting my family)
Will we want to kill each other after hour 30? (we spent 30 hours and 2 nights together at his place one weekend…but, this is a potential 60 hours)
How will this effect what we are?

and lastly…

What ARE we, that he is now inviting me to come visit him on business trips?

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You know when you hit a certain age and things hurt? When you turn things seem to just fall apart because suddenly you aren’t mocking the “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” lady because suddenly you are her. I threw out part of my back and shoulder yesterday. Excruciating pain, limited mobility. Add insult to injury… I am still on my cleanse so no comfort food AND I started my period. Ha, funny joke world. But enough about literal me, you want the dirt.
 
This weekend was fairly uneventful. The weather was amazing so I met up with a documentary filmmaker for some iced green tea, just about the only thing besides lemon juice, cayenne, maple syrup and water, which I am allowed to consume. He was okay. Tall. More handsome in his photos. Kinda scruffy but less in a sexy way and more in a lazy way.
 
We sat in the local greenway and chatted as we people watched and kept my dog from killing other dogs. Eventually we moved to the tea shop and, amusingly enough, as we were walking in, I noticed someone on the patio engaged in an apparent 1st date whom I had been corresponding on line with back in December. We never were quite able to get our schedules together. So, after we pick up our teas from inside, I try to steer Doc Film Boy to an bench away from the cafe or at least the other side of the patio BUT he insists that we should sit on the ledge of the patio, coincidentally, right next to Euro Pastry Chef and his eastern european first date, Oy. I was certain he would recognize me. On this particular day I happened to look just like my profile photo. My dog kept bothering his date who was yammering away and I could see there was zero chemistry. We all chatted at one point. I was so sure that he recognized me. Doc Film Boy and I eventually left, as he had a project to get back to and, quite frankly, there was as much chemistry between us as two blind and deaf strangers sitting three seats away from each other. I wished the Euro Pastry Boy and his date a good day and walked my date back to his place.
 
The weather was so nice that my pooch and I decided to do some wandering. We found an amazing used book store and stocked up on some great books by Kazan, Baker, Robbins, and Rilke, and we then picked her up some dinner, since her raw dog food had just finished off that morning. Raw lamb anyone?
 
Sunday was another day out in the sun. The first weekend of May always brings street festivals, so the pup and I boarded the train and headed out to one of the bigger ones. This particular festival is hell to anyone on a liquid dietary cleanse. Sigh, the food smelled soooo good. We received a text that afternoon that Type Geek would be unable to meet up as originally intended due to a family crisis. His brother was in town visiting for their parent’s anniversary and the upcoming Mother’s Day weekend and looked like utter death. He had been trying to self treat a chronic health problem that turned his system septic. He was jaundiced, internally bleeding, and 40 pounds thinner than he had been just 5 months earlier. The family staged an intervention and brought him to the ER. Days later he is now stabilized and moved to a better care facility but still in ICU. The doctors have yet to determine what is the cause of all of his problems, let alone what the long term affects are. So, Type Geek was spending the entire day in hospital emergency waiting rooms while I laid in the grass with my dog and an iced green tea on a sunny 80+ degree May Sunday. I think I definitely got the better deal of the hand on that one, wouldn’t you say.
 
Oh and regarding the Euro Pastry guy, I emailed him when I had settled in at home Saturday evening. Apologizing that my dog had disturbed his date and reiterating that I had truly TRIED to get my date to NOT sit where we did. Interestingly enough, he didn’t recognize me. He did however respond that, wow, I am quite pretty. Ha Ha. So, we have been bantering back and forth a bit since Sunday morning. I am also talking with a divorced man from San Diego who loves good fish tacos as much as I and used to own art galleries. So, who knows what the week will bring. And Monday? It started off with Brooklyn acknowledging and apologizing for how unfair he has been, admitting that it’s a shite thing he is doing to me, but that he needs to do self work alone at the moment. I really appreciated that. I miss him and I could really use a back rub from him right about now.    

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Anatomy of a Decade

We met for drinks and rosemary french fries. Conversation was nice, he is adorable, yet every time I looked at him, I thought of this:

1975– Weather Underground bombs State Dept in DC, Wheel of Fortune debuts, Watergate, Rocky Horror Picture Show opens on Broadway, Vietnam War, Bill Gates founds Microsoft, Saturday Night Live debuts, several countries declare independence from Portugal, Drew Barrymore and I are born. World population is 4,068,109,000

1976-US vetoes UN resolution calling for an independent Palestinian state, Apple Computer Company is formed, Tiananman riots, The Ramones release first album, Jimmy Carter wins presidency, Legionnaires disease first surfaces, U2 forms in Dublin highschool, Bob Marley is asassinated, Saul Bellow wins Nobel prize in literature and Audrey Tautou is born.

1977– Commodore computer is released, snow falls for the only time in history in Miami, Star Wars opens in cinemas, The Clash are formed, Apple ll computers released, The NYC blackout and Summer of Sam serial killings, Elvis Presley and Groucho Marx die, Orlando Bloom and Chris Martin of ColdPlay born.

1978-Garfield makes it’s debut, Ted Bundy captured, Larry Flynt shot and paralyzed, first Unabomber attack, first test tube baby is born, Jimmy Carter signs bill into law allowing home brewing of beer and he authorizes the minting of Susan B Anthony dollar, Jim Jones instigates Jonestown cult murder-suicides, Harvey Milk and George Moscone are assasinated, girl “hates Mondays” and open fires on San Diego school, Ashton Kutcher and Nikolai Fraiture of the Strokes are born.

1979-Star Trek: The Motion Picture premieres, Iran Hostage Crisis, 2 families flee East Germany by balloon, ESPN debuts, Michael Jackson releases Off The Wall, Ixtoc 1 oil spill releases upwards of 400+ million gallons of oil into S.Gulf of Mexico, Margaret Thatcher becomes Prime Minister, Three Mile Island nuclear plant disaster, compact discs are created, and Evangeline Lilly of television series Lost is born.

1980– Congress enacts CERCLA a.k.a. Superfunds, John Lennon is assasinated,Ethernet DIX standard is created, Jimmy Carter defeats Ed Kennedy for DNC nomination, RNC drops support of Equal Rights Amendment, CNN is launched, Ian Curtis of Joy Division dies, Pac Man is released, and Elin Nordegren (Woods) is born.

1981– Ronald Reagan becomes president, Walter Cronkite gives last CBS Evening News broadcast, CDC reports first cases of AIDS, Major League Baseball strikes, Sandra Day O’Connor becomes first female Supreme Court Judge, Adam Walsh is kidnapped and murdered, Lady Diana and Prince Charles marry, IBM computer  is released for $1,565 and has a with a 4.77 MHz Intel 8088 processor, Iran Contra Scandal, MTV is launched, and Brandon Flowers of the Killers is born.

1982-Canada gains full political independence from Great Britain, The Weather Channel debuts, Cal Ripken Jr. begins his streak, Equal Rights Amendment falls short on votes and Christian Right take credit, Pan Am flight 759 crashes, Lawn Chair Larry takes flight, First emoticons are released, International Day of Peace is formed, Michael Jackson releases Thriller, the United States goes into a recession, Commodore 64 computer is released, and now famous American Idol contestant Adam Lambert is born.

1983-Vanessa Williams becomes first black woman to be crowned Miss America, Tom Brokaw becomes NBC Nightly News Anchor, Red Hot Chili Peppers release first album, Michael Jackson’s Thriller video debuts, Microsoft Word is released, the DeLorean ceases production, the Chicken McNugget is introduced, MLK,Jr Day is signed into federal law, and Mila Kunis is born.

1984-Apple Macintosh is introduced, Michael Jackson wins 8 Grammys, Pierre Trudeau retires, The longest game in MLB history occurs between Milwaukee Brewers and Chicago White Sox, Virgin Atlantic takes first flight, Vanessa Williams resigns as Miss America over nude photo scandal, Crack Cocaine makes appearance in L.A., Ronald Reagan makes off the cuff joke about bombing Russia…ooops, they were ON THE AIR, and Scarlett Johansson is born.

1985-Minolta releases world’s first autofocus SLR, Mike Tyson has his first pro fight, DNA is first used in a criminal case, Dian Fossey is murdered in Rwanda, Windows 1.0 is released, Calvin & Hobbes debuts,teacher  Christa McAuliffe learns she will ride aboard Space Shuttle Challenger the next year,Spanish galleon Nuestra Señora de Atocha is found with treasures worth $400 million, South Africa ends ban on interracial marriages, and my date from Wednesday night… was born near Ithaca, New York. World population is 4,830,979,000

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