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Type Geek is back in town from his week of flights, meetings and schmoozing for the greater good of his company. Coming down from that whirlwind week and the stress and exhilaration of the whole conference event has left him tattered and a little emotionally raw. He’s straight out depressed. The lack of sunshine in our part of the East Coast isn’t helping either. My weekend had distractions from his absence, but I was disappointed that I didn’t have him next to me on Sunday night. Autumn has hit, full tilt. The nights are colder, and longer, and his bed was where I was hoping to usher in the new week from. However, it didn’t happen that way.

We didn’t spend a lot of time speaking on the phone this weekend, a bit of texting, but that is all. We tend towards text heavy conversation, but I end up missing the sound of his voice. He said something silly at some point that made me cock my head and respond that he is an odd one and makes me scratch my head a lot. His response was that he is not only an odd one, but an iron fortress as well, a combination that surely elicits much head scratching. I told him that I was working with a voodoo locksmith but that finding the right key was difficult, until then, I have been checking ever side door and window for a possible opening. He responded that my voodoo garlic soup now makes sense. I then said, that, ” in all seriousness, I care about you and I wish you could trust a little bit in that, but I am a stubborn girl, and I’ll keep scratching (in reference to head scratching confusion that he causes), with my head tilted like a confused puppy, as long as you’ll let me. All I can hope, is that the winds change direction soon and that you open those doors for some fresh air. I think you are pretty awesome, and worth it.” To which there was many minutes of text silence… followed with a simple thank you. We then had some banter later in the afternoon that included the recognition that I often bring a little bit of magic with me. I heal him with soup, when he asks me for sun… somehow it comes out,  and he has had two raises and one HUGE promotion since meeting me. Does he realize that I am his personal lucky charm?

Sigh, iron fortresses. Sometimes those people are worth the work, the time, the patience. Other times, you invest so much, and they never really let you in past the courtyard of their self-imposed exile. This might take a long time, what is my best position here? How should I help him to open up and trust again? Can I even do it?

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Now, I am no Bridget Jones and I surely don’t believe that a mini break equates love, however, I do lean towards someone liking you a heck of a lot if they want to fly you out to spend the weekend with them somewhere on the other coast. Type Geek has a month of travel ahead of him. This week alone he will be in the midwest and the east coast for a meeting and a conference. Then, upon returning, he is, within days, flying out to the west coast for another business trip. We had chatted about my coming down for a quick 36 hour trip to the Philly trip, but then today he mentioned that, while Philly is good… how about 3 days in So Cal? Well, that would just be horrible, especially considering that my “nieces”  and some of my closest friends live there. I was hoping to connect with an old friend in Philly, but that is close enough that I can actually plan a trip coming up to do so, San Diego is a more difficult one to muster.

When I travel to San Diego, it is to visit them and I stay in the guest room/office and thusly, I integrate into the daily lives of my friends and the girls. While this is wonderful, occasionally it can be taxing. With no solo adult time, no access to a personal vehicle or public transportation, it makes taking alone time difficult. This trip, if Type Geek and I are able to coordinate the schedules, will be an entirely different way of experiencing San Diego. Staying in a hotel, sleeping in, no schedules, sex and sunshine and cocktails. Yes, I will see my friends. I am trying to plan a dinner at their place so that Type Geek can experience really good Bavarian food. However, as wonderful as it will be to see them and the girls, it will be so wonderful to go back to a hotel room and get naked and curl up in a nice hotel bed with a nice naked man, rather than a mattress on the floor of an office across the hall from the rooms of two wonderfully loud and occasionally temper tantrum throwing little girls.

What I wonder:
Will he love my “nieces” as much as I do?
Will my friends and he like each other? ( These people are more “family” to me than my blood relatives, so in effect, this is like meeting my family)
Will we want to kill each other after hour 30? (we spent 30 hours and 2 nights together at his place one weekend…but, this is a potential 60 hours)
How will this effect what we are?

and lastly…

What ARE we, that he is now inviting me to come visit him on business trips?

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